Oh, gads, I've had that happen to me more than once! I run groups myself, and I preach the old saw "respond to the issue, not the poster" like I'm in my right mind or something. This style board undermines that considerably.
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I figure that the answers will be similar frequently, but just the fact that the posts are being made would likely improve morale around here considerably. :D Just "Hi! We're breathing!"
I'd post over in suggestions, but one of the owners posted here, so I'm hanging onto that. XD